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Biblical Wisdom In Plain English

Is Ghosting Someone A Good Thing Or A Bad Thing?

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I was watching this particular program and the lady turned and said to the man: “Are you ghosting me?” I had not heard that terminology before so I immediately went to Siri and asked: “What is ghosting?” And ghosting was defined as: “the appearance of a ghost or secondary image on a television or other display screen; the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone suddenly and without explanation and withdrawing from all communication; no longer accepting or responding to phone calls, instant messages, etc.” 

So, I asked my husband, Prophet Owens what is ghosting, and he said: “It’s like a person that was once a part of your life, but then they disappeared like a ghost.” So, with that being said, is ghosting really a bad thing to inflict upon someone? WelI, I would have to say yea and nay! It depends on the motive! It’s wrong if you’re simply not manning up to the situation by being open and honest or just being mean spirited. 

Then, there’s this point of view that may be true but still hurtful. It is said, “ghosting someone you like can be due to fear of vulnerability, past traumas, uncertainty about their feelings, or concerns about compatibility.” Others say, you should never ever ghost anyone because it is emotional abuse and emotional cruelty. 

You’re poisoning them with thoughts that are damaging but may not be true. Matthew 18:15 said: “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.” But on the flip side, is ghosting ever a good thing?  And I use the word “ever” or “never” to reiterate the point. 

Well, I won’t say ghosting is never appropriate or a good thing to do, because sometimes with negative or unrepented people (i.e., people not willing to repent or get things resolved), in wisdom you should ghost them. But ghost them in the spirit of meekness knowing that you have tried your best to love them, be reconciled and live at peace with them. But they won’t receive you or make any effort to make amends. As a matter of fact, they seem to be getting worse.

 Amos 3:3 said: “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Or they are people constantly causing confusion or they bring division when it comes to the “Vision” or Word of God. Romans 16:17-18 said: “Now, I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. (or ghost them) For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.” 

But even though you ghost them, you should never ghost your prayers to God for them! So, you may ask what about reprobate people should we ghost them completely. According to Romans 1:18-19, God will deal with them because the Word said: “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.” So, when you ask the question, is ghosting a good thing or a bad thing? I would respond, it depends on which ghost is directing you, your fleshly ghost, or the Holy Ghost?

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